To Botox or not to Botox?

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To Botox or not to Botox? That is the question. Whether tis nobler to suffer the wrinkles and sagging of aging or to take up syringes and scalpels and beat back the evidence of age…

On Twitter this morning, I asked about Botox. I’m genuinely curious. Has anyone had it? What was it like? Why did they do it? Is it pricey? Is it painful? Are there serious side effects?

I asked because I’ve got some super-deep horizontal lines on my forehead that I really just don’t love. They’re the reason I wear bangs, as a matter of fact. And recently I have been thinking, hey, why not? Why not fix ’em up? So I asked. And of course, my wonderful friends told me I don’t need it, I’m beautiful the way I am, that we should embrace our life lines and all that wonderful, positive stuff.

Sure, we should. And if you’ve known me for long, you know I am a strong believer in embracing the way we are, from head to toe. Or am I? We never discuss weight in my family, and we teach the kids that health is all that matters, not size, weight or looks. We talk about being smart, funny, kind, empathetic, generous, helpful… and yes, I tell my kids they’re all those things, plus adorable and beautiful because all these things are the truth. But we don’t focus on the physical.

All my life I have to say, I’ve felt pretty. I’ve also felt, at different times, overweight, less-than, self-conscious, wrinkly, saggy, frumpy, sexy, beautiful, ugly… this week I’ve been feeling more than a little wrinkly, and that’s ok. For the most part I’m really happy with the way I look and I feel like it’s a good representation of who I am. I feel youthful and fun, happy and loving and I hope my face reflects that, I really do.

But oh, those stupid forehead lines. They’ve been there forever, actually. If you look closely at my high school grad photo, the idiotic photographers actually poorly “airbrushed” them out for me (along with my under-eye “wrinkles”). So basically there are orangey lines all over my 18 year old face. Thanks, photogs!

I’m not sure why now, at 37, they bother me, but they sorta do.ย So I took it to Twitter to learn more about Botox and see if it was something I’d like to do. Most people were adamantly against it, and one person said they’d had it. Out of thousands who follow me. Huh.

And then this afternoon, a PR person was seeking a GTA mom blogger who would be willing to have Botox done (20 units) for free, to blog about the clinic, process and the deal that was being offered on the procedure. A couple people suggested me, since I’d just been talking about it a couple hours before. We emailed back and forth and I was offered the deal.

So what do you think I’m going to do?

What would you do?

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28 thoughts on “To Botox or not to Botox?

  1. Oh Alex, you really are gorgeous and don’t need it, but if it’s something that you feel like you need to do, have researched it and are comfortable with the risks and side effects, then this is a good opportunity for you. Personally, I wouldn’t do it, because I am not comfortable with them, but everyone has their limits.

    I’m curious to see and hear what you decide.

    1. I updated in a new post. ๐Ÿ™‚

      I weighed it all out, really I did. And I love you for saying I don’t need it. xo

  2. I sort of already told you that I’m personally too chicken for botox on twitter but that being said I never really thought about it before. I kind of feel like b/c you had been wondering about it and asking questions and this opportunity came up – why not? Of course as I also said on twitter, make sure you feel comfortable with the place and person injecting you! It probably wouldn’t hurt to at least for for the consult and see how you feel after!

  3. I say, do whatever makes you happy. If you DO decide to do it however, please, PLEASE don’t let them make you look like Ronnie from “The Real Housewives of Vancouver.” She’s a pretty lady but, it’s creepy the way her voice comes out of her face without her mouth ever moving…

  4. I think you won’t because I convinced you with my argument this morning that you still need to be able to scowl at your kids ๐Ÿ˜‰

  5. I think from the photos I’ve seen of you that you are gorgeous. That being said I know what it’s like to want to tweak the little things. If I was comfortable with the clinic and the level of expertise of the injector I’d do it. I’d also go for a free boob job and laser lipo but no one has offered :).

    1. Thanks so much, Carmen. I’m not so sure getting this stuff for free is the best way to get it. Something about it makes me feel like it’s worth paying for. :p

  6. I’m curious as to what you’d make of the experience: and the thing with Botox is that it wears off.

    Right now, while I probably wouldn’t, there’s nothing to say that I might in the future: and, anyhow, you’ve a couple of years on me. In the meantime, I could mail over some of the miracle anti-wrinkle cream from Boots which does a fairly good job of un-deepening the things if you remember to use it. I rarely remember.

  7. Seriously Alex, you don’t need it. You’re pretty as you are!

    But – if you have some lines that really bug you, I don’t see anything wrong in trying to make yourself look and feel better. I honestly don’t know if I’d try it one day but I’m not going to say “never”. I’ve seen lines filled ‘properly’ – subtle but lovely difference.

    If you do decide to follow through, I’d be interested in seeing the results!

  8. Botox freaks me out a bit- the chemicals, the unknown, the needles, the lack of expressions…. That said, if you have something that bothers you and you think you’d feel better- do it. I have no judgement on doing it. Maybe the ‘free’ offer is clouding the decision? Do you want to do it quietly for YOU alone or do you want to represent this clinic and make it public? There are a few questions you need to feel comfortable with. Go with your gut.

  9. Personally I’m not a fan of botox or any type of cosmetic surgery… I think it’s a waste of money and don’t like the idea of injecting weird shit into my body or unnecessary surgeries. I think it’s sad that women feel like they need to alter themselves to look younger or prettier. Having said that, you have to do what works for you. Do what you like and own it! I think you’re absolutely gorgeous, but I won’t think any less of you no matter what your decision. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. All these things factored into my decision in a big way. What a weird thing, to feel compelled to erase everything on my face. Ha.

      1. One thing I forgot to add: Don’t do it just because it’s free. (I actually don’t think that’s your reason, but wanted to say it anyway.)

  10. When else are you going to get a chance at FREE Botox?
    It’s free, it’s by a licensed clinic, if all there stuff checks out and they are repubutial. Go for it.
    It’s not a permanent change so if you hate it it will wear off.

  11. I’ve had it done and love it. No one has noticed unless I told them, yet I clearly see the results. Those pesky forehead wrinkles were the first (and practically the only) thing I noticed in pictures of myself, now I notice my smile.

  12. I get what you’re saying 10001% – I have the furrowed brow look myself…for such a happy girl, I tend to look pissed way more than most…so I investigated, but since I have a silly heart thingy, was told not to, as it can cause arrhythmia…which left me wondering what I COULD do…turns out there are some VERY aggressive non-surgical, non-needley options like targeted facials & creams… as everyone before me has said, you are so pretty anyway, maybe you just need to decide which decision you will regret most?

    1. I’m told there’s a cream by Boots they now sell at Shopper’s that is AWESOME though! Plus, way safer.

  13. Well, here’s a secret: I use it. Not religiously or anything, and I go long periods between from time to time, but I use it and I love it. I actually had the opportunity to take a free “full meal deal” one time in exchange for absolutely nothing, but I had done advertising editorials for this one doc for many years and I thought why not? I could write a first-person article some day, or maybe not. He asked for nothing for it, just wanted me to try it on. I had actually done minor stuff with it before, but he put it in my forehead, the 11 lines between my eyes, the corners of my eyes and my mouth. Crazy, right? The results were really good, and my face all still moved, nothing looked fake or wrong, and nobody ever would have known. In fact, most people have no idea at all. But I get compliments on my youthful appearance.

    After the “full meal deal” treatment (which would have cost me in the neighbourhood of $800), I looked probably 5 years younger at least, and just “refreshed.” Still me.

    He is a nationally renowned physician and vein and cosmetic specialist and I trusted him. They key is WHO does it. Because girl — I had it done wrong once, and it was horrifyingly embarrassing. I will never get it done at a spa-type place again. This was a nurse doing it (after all, there are no regulations as to who does it, you can learn how at a weekend seminar at a hotel!), who worked for a doctor that did it, and she would lend herself out to spas each Thursday. I don’t know what she did, but I ended up with a “pirate eye.” One eye just looked like “arrrr!” all the time. I did get my money back and it did wear off, but caveat emptor – I learned my lesson and I *knew* better. I had written probably close to 100 articles on cosmetic procedures for a decade for a publication that came out twice a year. I was tempted by the low, per-unit cost offered. Never again.

    I have used a few different dermatologists over the past 5 years or so, and all were amazing. One in particular told me I didn’t need as much as I’d been getting, now I see her ever 4 to 6 months for $40 worth for what I call my “San Andreas faultline” across my forehead. It totally does the trick and costs so little. I have never had any side effects from it. And if you use it fairly regularly your faces kind of stops aging in those spots, and you can go longer in between. I don’t care if it’s vain, I don’t do a lot of things for myself and this makes me feel like myself when I look in the mirror. Because I damn well don’t feel 45 years old. I’m still growing up. ๐Ÿ™‚

    If you decide to do it, that’s cool. I, too, think you look fabulous, but I also do understand some of those things that bother us. The good thing about Botox is if you don’t like it for any reason, it wears off.

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