How to Support a Friend Struggling with Infertility
It seems that having a baby should be the easiest thing in the world. Unfortunately, almost 1/6 couples struggles with infertility of some kind in their efforts to conceive. There are countless reasons why conception doesn’t come easy, and often the journey to finding out why ends without answers.
I’ve had numerous friends suffer miscarriages and infertility, and each time, I’ve learned a little more about how best to support them. It’s hard to know what to say, but a little love goes a long way.
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Here are some ways you can support those suffering with infertility.
Someone struggling to conceive probably doesn’t want to hear how your back’s aching in your third trimester. Be mindful that they’d do anything to have that ache themselves.
Sometimes your friend will just need to talk, but may not be seeking advice. Sit and truly listen, offering support when needed.
Remember Them On Mother’s and Father’s Day
Letting those struggling to conceive know that you’re thinking of them, and you hope that soon they’ll be celebrating this special day is a touching way to show your support.
Ask How You Can Help
Maybe you can cook a meal for them, or just be there for an appointment. Maybe they have other children you can watch for them, or maybe a coffee date to chat is helpful. Asking your friend what they need demonstrates that you’re truly concerned and want to help them however they need it.
Validate Their Feelings
Struggling with infertility is a unique kind of pain, because they suffer the loss of potential and dreams. Try not to minimize or brush off your friend’s struggle, but support them in the process.
Remember The Other Partner
There are often two people involved in this process – one is often left out of the comforting because they won’t be the ones trying to carry a baby. But feelings for all those involved will be raw, and needing support.
Ask how the process is going, or how they’re feeling. Don’t be afraid to inquire, with sensitivity. Often just sharing the burden of the process will help people in the journey.
In addition to asking your friend questions, take it upon yourself to learn about infertility and the options people have. There are so many new advancements to support those trying to conceive, such as AUGMENT from OvaScience. This doesn’t mean you need to suggest anything, it just means you’ll be prepared to have discussions when your friend needs to talk.
Avoid Giving Advice
Those suffering with infertility know the options, and aren’t in need of any advice. Just support.
Acknowledge Their Strength
Infertility is hard on people in so many ways. It’s taxing on their emotions, it’s hard physically, and it stresses relationships. Let your friend know they’re strong, cut them some slack, and show them that you can be strong when they cannot.
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