I spend a lot of time online, and I think my husband does, too. He blogs on occasion, he’s on Facebook and Twitter, and he does a lot of online reading and research. Our paths definitely cross, but we’re not intertwined online, and I really like it that way. People seem to find that a little odd, but you know what? I find it stranger when that’s not the case.
I’m going to admit here that I find it… weird when spouses interact an awful lot online. Weirder still when they share accounts like “JennAndDoug Smith” on Facebook or when someone tells me to email them at “TheSmiths@weloveeachotherSOMUCH.com”. (Hey, all you Smiths I know, this isn’t about you, it was just the first name that came to mind.) I don’t really understand wanting to be a single entity with a spouse. It’s not that I don’t like to share with Ryan, I totally do, but I like to be my own person more than I like to share accounts with him. I don’t know his email or Facebook passwords, although I bet if I asked, he’d tell me. He also doesn’t know mine. We share an iTunes account across all our Apple devices, so that we’re able to pay just once for apps and music, so technically we could see one another’s texts and messages if we wanted to, but they’re kept separate. My profile pictures don’t usually include him, because he’s not me. And I certainly don’t understand listing a spouse in a bio on Twitter, though I know that’s a pretty popular thing to do.
We have separate social calendars, and a shared family one. We do our own things online, and spend the rest of our time together. On occasion he reads my blog (hi, Ry!), and sometimes refers to me on Twitter (hey, @squrrell!), and rarely gives me Facebook posts a “Like” (whaddup wit dat?), but that’s a-ok with me. We live together. We’ve been together for something like 16 years, isn’t that together enough?
I asked Ryan the other night if he thinks it’s weird we don’t interact more often online, and he agrees with me. Of course we talk online, but we’re not, um, up each other’s modem, if you know what I mean.
What’s your take on the subject? Is your partner on social media? Do you share accounts, or chat to one another a lot online?